How To Start Conversation with A girl

Second Stage – Zeroing in on some commonality through testing, exploration, trial and error, and keen observation. In other words, you’ll be fishing around for something in common. When she’s talking, pay close attention and listen very carefully to what she says and how she says it.
Listen, watch, and note the body language. You’re looking for a common topic that you’ll both find interesting. If her emotion picks up or she talks a great deal about something, then you’ll know that she has an interest or is passionate about the topic.

Try disclosing something about yourself and look for any indication of interest. Watch to see which of your words cause her eyes to light up. Your discussion topic may not interest her but it may touch on topics that do.
For instance, you may be talking about whale watching in Alaska and notice that she doesn’t seem to care about whales or Alaska. But you do notice that her eyes lit up at the mention of the ocean cruise ship that you took to get there. This is your cue to forget the Alaskan whales and to talk about ocean cruise ship vacations in general.
You need to be flexible and allow the conversation to go in whatever direction her words and reactions take it. Remember, you’re fishing for common interests, so don’t fixate on one topic.
Third Stage – Making a connection at a deep level. If you make it this far, you’ve just earned her real phone number or (as the case may be) a second date with her. At this point you are going deeper into the interests and passions that you both want to talk about.
You will want to home in on values and beliefs. On your sense of who you are and her sense of who she is. What things matter the most? You can even ask her “What do you feel is most important about such and such?”
Your first conversation with a stranger is something that you should take charge of. It doesn’t have to be hit or miss. You shouldn’t leave it to chance or to the other person that something will take hold and develop.
Be careful to keep the conversation a 50-50 exchange. Always be aware of the give and take process of a conversation. Give too much and you’re dominating the conversation and the other person feels they can’t get a word in at all. You become a bore.
Take too much and the conversation becomes an interrogation. You’ll also come across as being secretive, as someone who doesn’t want to talk about himself.

Where To Meet Women

Bars, nightclubs, and parties have a bad reputation for a lot of men and women alike. The atmosphere is loud and harsh. Alcohol is flowing and people are drunk.

Women have their defenses dialed all the way up. How are they to know that you aren’t just another low life pick up artist? Their suspicions and defenses are justified because many losers set up shop in these kinds of places.

Here are some alternatives with a relaxed setting where women have their guard down:





1.) Bookstores. A Bookstore is a great non-threatening spot to meet women. Unlike the loud, smoke filled, alcohol laden bar, a bookstore is a pleasant cozy place.

Bookstores have narrow aisles allowing you to get within close proximity of women without setting off defensive alarms. At any point you can switch from researching books to researching women and back again.

A great benefit to bookstores is that a woman’s interests are as transparent as the title of the book she’s holding or name of the aisle that she’s browsing in. Want to meet women that share your particular interests? Just hang around the book aisles or magazine racks that interest you. Women browsing in these places will have the same interest.

Want to do some field research into what topics are most popular with women? Just find the spots in the store that have the most women browsers.

Perhaps the best bookstores of all are a combination bookstore and coffee shop. After chatting it up with someone in front of a magazine rack, you can ask if she’d like a coffee and you’ve now progressed on to your first ‘date’.

2.) Dog Parks (or any park that people walk their dogs). Own a dog? If you do and you really love dogs, then you have a place to meet women (the park), an approach strategy (let your dog approach the girls dog), and something in common to talk about (take a guess).

Women are attracted to men that love animals, because to them it probably means that you’re good with kids which makes you good father material. Getting married and having kids may be the last thing on a woman’s mind, but never the less she will find you more attractive. This attraction operates on a subconscious level.

3.) Any place that involves a lot of waiting. A good example of such a place is the DMV. The waiting can last for hours and chat of any kind is a welcome relief from the boredom. Because of the long waiting times, there is ample opportunity to get to know a woman very well.





4.) At a gym. This is your chance to show off your athletic body and to allow it to do some of the ‘selling’ for you. Gyms are great because the women you meet there frequent it on a regular basis. Because she’s already seen you there several times before, she’s already familiar with you. This makes approaching her a great deal easier.

5.) At work. If your reason for being unattached is the long hours that you put into your job, then perhaps that special someone is a coworker a few cubicles down who’s also putting in long hours. Think about it, it’s late and it’s just you and her without the usual day time distractions.

1st Date Advise

First dates can be a stressful time for most people. This is especially true for the guy who’s been out of the dating scene for a while.

This stress comes from the common fears about not knowing what to say or do with someone you know very little about. Fears about things going badly and rejection also play a big part.

Knowing what to do is the best way to cope with this stress. Here are a some first date pointers.

1.) It’s probably not the best idea to take her to a movie. Why is that? Because you can’t do any talking which makes it impossible to find out what sort of person she is.

It’s also done too much. Doing the usual standard stuff isn’t the recipe for a fun date.

You could try an activity based date such as hiking, skiing, wine tasting, amusement park, driving range, or a softball game. Knowing something of your date’s interests helps a lot with your choice of place or activity.

After you’ve finished your activity, eating out at a nice place is a good idea. Avoid going to a super expensive or fancy place as this makes it seem as if you’re trying very hard to impress her or buy her.

2.) This is obvious to most but surprisingly there are some who need to be reminded: personal hygiene is important for a first date. A bath or shower, deodorant, shave, brushing teeth, and mouthwash. Don’t overlook this because you’re pressed for time or are nervous.

3.) Wear clean and attractive clothes. A bad first impression will make the rest of the date an uphill struggle. Of course what you’ll be doing affects your attire.

Don’t forget to leave the old shoddy shoes at home. Women have this thing about a nice pair of shoes.

4.) Think in advance about some general conversation strategies. Too many silences equate to a boring date. Start out with some small talk about current events or something you notice in your immediate environment that’s interesting or unusual.

Once she’s relaxed, you might change the conversation to getting to know one another. Ask open ended questions and listen very carefully for any points that you have in common.

Conversation is a give and take thing. Talk to much about yourself and you’re a bore. Ask too many questions and you become an interrogator.




5.) If you’re using your car to pick up your date, make sure it’s in good condition. Don’t get stuck on a road at night in a broken down car. Also be sure that your car is cleaned out and has no lingering odors. There’s no better way to turn off your date than to make her sit in a dirty and cluttered car.

6.) Don’t overlook bringing enough money or credit on your first date. Although some women will offer to pay, it’s still customary for the man to pick up the tab. Bring enough to allow some flexibility about where you go or eat.

7.) Being relaxed is the key to making your date comfortable, having a good time, and connecting with her. Excessive nervousness makes you appear as lacking confidence which is a turn off. Don’t place any big expectations on the outcome of your date. You’re out to have fun with an interesting person

How To make A Girl Laugh

Humor is the best way to break the ice when meeting someone for the first time. This is especially true with meeting women. It is the fast track to warming her up.
After that first laugh, any apprehension she may have is gone in a split second. I like to use humor as an ice breaker and try not to force or over do it.
You can try jokes and if they’re appropriate for the situation they can be very effective. I tend to favor situational humor where I’ll just say something on the spot that is playful or makes fun of a situation. Using situational humor means you won’t have worry about memorizing jokes and trying to deliver them right.
So how do you do this? For starters it helps if you’ve always been a smart aleck or wise guy in the first place. If you’ve always been trading wise cracks with your friends, then it’s just a matter of adapting the humor for women.
With women playful silliness or a confident cockiness that is silly in some way works wonders. The facial expression and body language you use all depends on what you’re saying to her.

I once strutted up to a girl, all puffed up and with the toughest look I could manage on my face I said: “I’m a BAAAAD BOY!”. She had a hard time stopping her laughter. She knew I was just being silly and was putting on the performance for her benefit.
I’ve only done that once because each situation is different and you’re always saying something specific for the situation. Sometimes I can get laughter with a straight dead pan look on my face.
You can develop a knack for this type of humor by soaking up as much stand up comedy on television as you can. You’re not trying to memorize anything, instead you want to saturate yourself with this type of humor. Your subconscious will soak it up and before you know it you’ll find yourself blurting out funny things.
It usually doesn’t happen unless you’re feeling happy and confident. You should also hold the attitude that people are fun.
A few rules:
1.) Don’t make fun of her or of anything that might be important to her.
2.) Never force it. It has to be spontaneous and natural. Your humor should flow.
3.) Don’t be discouraged if some women don’t think you’re funny. Different people react differently. There’s some trial and error to this and it’ll take some time to learn.
4.) Don’t laugh at your own humor. It will wreck the delivery.
5.) Don’t use humor as a substitute for genuinely relating to people. Too much of anything is bad.
6.) There are many ways of expressing humor. Choose a style that’s a good match for your personality.

Nine Tips On Attrect A Girl

Here’s nine useful things to give you the edge in your quest for love.
1.) The power of a smile. A smile shows that you are relaxed and confident. It also relaxes others and is definitely an ice breaker. Add some cockiness to your smile and you’re projecting an alpha male image. A complete turn-on for women.
2.) Dressing well. How you dress can have a dramatic effect on your physical attractiveness. If this is true with respect to female attractiveness (and we’ve all done a double take when the plain Jane at work shows up at a social occasion in a stunning dress), it’s true for male attractiveness. New, stylish clothing that fits well is a must. Another important item: your shoes. This seems to be important to women, so be sure that your shoes are stylish, polished, and clean.

3.) Fitness. Being fit and healthy attracts women. If you’re not athletically inclined and hate working out, then try looking fit. This means having a good posture and walking with a relaxed athletic grace. Don’t hunch your shoulders, keep them back and down. Clothing with a good fit helps.
4.) If you have an independent streak, then now is the time to show it. Women love this because it’s a sign of strength. Independence is the opposite of neediness. Most women thoroughly detest neediness. If you find yourself in a relationship with a women that wants a needy man, it’s probably not healthy.
5.) Know what you want from life and what you want in a woman. If you give the impression that any female with two legs will do, it will reflect badly on you. If you have no standards, it implies that you don’t think highly of yourself. You will seem undesirable and desperate.
6.) If you have a quick mind, use it. Women love wit and cleverness. Appropriate humor delivered rapidly is key. Even a remark that’s only mildly funny can be very effective if delivered quickly.
7.) Be a flexible conversationalist. The more that you can talk about, the greater your ease at relating to a variety of women. It’s so much easier when you’re on top of the subject being discussed. There’s no groping around for the next thing to say. Being able to connect with a woman because of some common ground is powerful. How do you do this? Be curious about the world around you. Observe things. Read some books.
8.) Don’t make obvious efforts at blending in. Blend in too well and you’ll become a piece of wallpaper. You want to stand out in some way. Be unique. Don’t follow the pack because that’s what beta males do. Be a leader.
9.) Be a tease. Knowing the proper way to tease a woman can be very enjoyable for both your and her. It creates sexual tension (always a good thing) and it demonstrates that you’re not phased by her stunning beauty. While everyone else dishes out the usual compliments, you’ll come across as different. Teasing is an art and should be playful. If you spent your childhood teasing your sisters (I was merciless) then you’ll be a natural. If you tease inappropriately, it will backfire. Do it skillfully or don’t do it at all.

How To Approch A Girl

Here’s a classic scenario that’s been happening all over the world since the beginning of time (well, not really). You notice a beautiful girl and she becomes aware of your glances. In the span of a few seconds you decide to do nothing and then just go about your business. This is a very common daily experience that a lot of guys won’t admit to.
Sometimes a brave soul will just go for it and approach her anyway. When he reaches her with a blanked out mind and a racing pulse, he does or says something causing an awkward moment for both him and the girl. Later that day he tries his best to suppress all memories of his humiliation.

There are a million and two variations to this but they all amount to missed opportunities. Guys with this problem all recognize that they’re having difficulties with approaching women. What they fail to do is resolve to fix their problem in a deliberate and methodical way.
This means gaining experience gradually by taking small baby steps. What I mean is that you need to get proficient at spontaneous socializing with strangers. You should make a goal of talking to as many strangers as you can during the course of your day. Your interactions won’t necessarily be full blown discussions. If you tried to force lengthy conversation on people they’ll probably get annoyed and back away.
Your interactions have to come across as a natural reaction on your part to something about the person or the situation. When you’re taking these baby steps, the goal is not picking up every female you come across. You’re just trying to initiate some talk which will naturally run its course, then you’ll move on.
I personally prefer to use humor whenever I can to loosen things up. There’s no quicker way to set a girl at ease than to make her laugh. I’ve found at least for me, that it’s far easier to make a girl laugh than a guy.
That’s because the girl is simultaneously hearing something funny and experiencing the thrill of attention from the opposite sex. It’s sort of a quick one-two punch that many women will automatically react to with laughter.
The humor doesn’t have to be all that funny. It only needs to be spontaneous and appropriate to the situation. The other day I got three women at a Star Bucks to laugh at this phrase: “eeny, meenie, minie, moe”. There’s nothing gut wrenching about the phrase itself. But it seemed the natural thing to say when three female employees were ready to take my order and it wasn’t clear who I should give my order to. An hour later at a different location, I caused a girl to burst into laughter when I said the word “five”. You had to be there to understand.
The formula for this type of humor is spontaneity, appropriateness, and being playful. There’s many formulas for humor, but that’s the one that works for me. You’ll want to avoid humor that make you seem like a clown, because you want to come across as an interesting and exciting male.
The easiest way to begin your baby steps is to start with women (you’ve not met before) that you’re expected to interact with anyway. So you’ll be targeting every bank teller, cashier, waitress, grocery bagger, librarian, and so on. You will want to get them to talk about something that’s not required by their job. So asking a waitress what the day’s special is doesn’t count as a social interaction. And remember that humor is a great ice breaker.
When this becomes second nature, then it’s time do your little interactions with women that you’re not expected to interact with. As you do this, start asking open ended questions that aren’t prying, to get her to open up more. With consistent repetition of this every day, you’ll reach the point where approaching and getting to know a woman that you take a fancy to won’t be that big of a deal. If she rejects you, it’s not because of awkwardness on your part. It’ll be because of circumstances that have to do with her. And besides, if you get rejected, so what? Who cares?

How To Impress A Women

For most guys, there will be times when in the course of a conversation with a girl, the topic being discussed comes to an end and they can’t think of what to say next.
It isn’t because there’s nothing left to say, it’s because they’re temporarily stuck. If they had a little more time they could get unstuck but the girl is standing there waiting.
The pressure is on and something has to be said now! If you allow the conversation to end awkwardly, you’ll probably kill any chances of generating attraction with her. So what do you say?

Women are largely attracted to men of status. This doesn’t mean that you have to be an astronaut or a movie star to be attractive.
It means having alpha male status or coming across as one. A lot things go into projecting this kind of image.
Things like your dress, what you say, and how you behave. But one thing above all else will betray you if you don’t get it right. This is your body language.
How we feel about ourselves and how comfortable we are in a social situation is given away by our body language. Women pick up on this immediately.
If your body language is weak, you will be seen as a low status male. You can have the best opening lines in the world but weak body language will do you in every time.
Weak body language includes: